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Tracy Kolenchuk's avatar

Interesting... Lots to think about. I need to read it again. I'm a "word" guy, and I think the word for cutting people of is simply the "F-you" response, followed perhaps by turning the other "cheeks," if you get my drift.

If you're looking for another "F" word, this is the "Facebook" response to people (like me) accused of going against their "community standards." There is no feud, because no discussion, much less any appeal being possible. It's basically a "You've been do bad that I refuse to 'Face' you."

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Gary Sharpe's avatar

Very good - thats certainly an appropriate "f" word for the cutting people off response. Sorry to hear you have come up against the no appeal facebook "community" "standards".

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Tracy Kolenchuk's avatar

Not just Facebook's F-off. I've also got a published cure theory book about COVID "blocked" on Amazon. The excuse was "we're only publishing COVID material by authoritative authors". It was still blocked when I last checked a few months ago. The Amazon version of F-off. My Medium.com paid membership was terminated, I was told to F-off without explanation and the paid balance refunded. All of my posts were deleted. Luckily, or not, I didn't have much on Twitter at that time, so I was not blocked there. Funnily enough, although Google throttles some of my materials, if you search Google or Bing for "theory of cure," I am the only living authority listed and my materials almost fills the results pages.

I'm small fry - I do know there are lots of others who have been whacked much harder. And I'm retired so it doesn't affect my income or status.

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Gary Sharpe's avatar

Very sad state of affairs. That's really chilling about amazon, didn;t realize censorship was that bad there too.

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Rob (c137)'s avatar

Funny cause I would usually get that from people when I was making a good case against their beliefs...

But they didn't ban them....

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Rob (c137)'s avatar

Yep this feud dynamic has been used many times.

Here's a good video on how it's used in the health freedom movement, primarily the push for unity and the use of fake crazy opposition to discredit honest doubts about beliefs.

https://rumble.com/v4ee920-after-talk-with-sasha-latypova-identifying-controlled-opposition.html

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Jennifer  FauntLeRoy's avatar

My English mother used "frosty" as a cold shoulder / "I beg your pardon?" response. A refusal to "feud" openly but the meaning was clear.

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Eddie Rogero's avatar

I love your stacks as they are very thought provoking. I just starting reading some of Jason Christoff’s information on mind control. Are you familiar with Jason’s work?

Thank you Gary!

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Gary Sharpe's avatar

No but I will look him up. Is he on substack?

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Eddie Rogero's avatar

https://rumble.com/v3vpsa5-one-nation-under-mind-control-jason-christoff.html

He doesn’t have much of a presence on Substack.

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Marvin H Berman, PhD's avatar

The unconscious dynamics that groups and therefore individuals manifest are flight, fight, pairing and dependency. These were articulated by Wilfred Bion a pioneer British group psychoanalyst and theoretician. I see the roots of your thinking in Bion’s ideas about how groups manage the primitive feelings aroused in learning to work together in common cause, ie., survival.

Our work as individuals is to keep clear on the distinction between our own feelings, fantasies. needs and goals and those that are born of the roles we take up on behalf of the groups to which we belong.

This is a big topic and one that I think bears greater attention in terms of how we go about healing ourselves and others.

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Melanie's avatar

Wait, so how is feud different from fight?

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Gary Sharpe's avatar

Good question. Fight is physical response, feud is social response. Fight is short term in the moment response, and giving in to flight or freeze if unsuccesful. Feud is win at all costs and ongoing.

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Sharine Borslien's avatar

Brilliant addition to The Fs, Gary! Speaking of cancel culture and other forms of censorship, my husband recently told me about a woman who is combatting the recent trend of people turning in neighbors and others to Child Protective Services, all because they witnessed children playing unsupervised! Typically, nothing ever comes of the stupid whistleblowing — except the entire family gets traumatized by the investigation of, basically, their entire lives: What they feed their children, where they sleep, what rules they observe, and so on. CPS literally turns upside down the family's life, shaking them down for signs of abject abuse, all because some pussy helicopter parents (or even observers who have no children of their own) have judged "unsupervised playtime" to be putting the children at serious risk.😳😡

I think that the CovAin't plandemic exacerbated the fearfulness of these folks, and in many states they are encouraged to spy on neighbors for what they deem to be unscrupulous behavior. They've become the civilian police — not just of mask-wearing and social distancing — but of ALLOWING CHILDREN TO EXPLORE THEIR WORLD ON THEIR OWN TERMS.

I don't know how you grew up, Gary, but my parents allowed us to spend many hours of the day completely unsupervised. In fact, they encouraged it. My mother would day, "Get out of the house and DO SOMETHING!" We ask what she wanted us to do, and she would say, "I don't care what you do, just do something." She trusted that we had enough scruples not to burn the barn down (although my older brother and his friend came really close to doing that!) and that if we did make mistakes or get hurt, we would learn a valuable life lesson.

But nowadays, a lot of children seem to be terrified of being alone, without a tech device, and they don't really know sh*t about anything! They have no skills, no critical thinking ability, and no bloody imagination! It is truly pathetic.

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Gary Sharpe's avatar

Yes, likewise, we ranged free as children. You are right, too much coddling is not good for development.

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Elsa's avatar

The cold shoulder form of feud -of course I come to freeze out - but freeze is already taken.

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Gary Sharpe's avatar

Thanks, yes worrying times. I do think that understanding our nervous system, and our own and other peoples stress responses/survival instincts, is a small part of the solution.

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Kelly's avatar

Your articles, such as this one, are certainly helpful for expanding such understanding. Thank you Gary.

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Rob (c137)'s avatar

The runaway feeling changed when I saw how the group think democratic party couldn't stop their followers from supporting Gaza in calling a cease fire to the genocide...

It's horrible but the reaction is positive and shows that the decay might be ending as even Americans can see it happening in their own country!

Nothing was done to fix it because people accepted it for so long!

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