Hello Gary -- I agree with your recipe...mostly. The trouble is, there is an assumption that people are always self-oriented, and so all persons need to think of the other to a greater extent.
This assumption fails when talking about the category living on one far side of the Empathy Spectrum, where you have Cluster-B personalities at one polar extreme and persons with too much empathy at the opposite extreme. The persons with too much empathy and too little Self are sometimes called Codependents, although I dislike that often-misinterpreted term.
Therefore a "Codependent" would require more Self, rather than less. Usually life -- and others -- trample them.
Good story illustrating this: "The Less You Know the Sounder You Sleep" by Juliet Butler
more laughter
healthy tears
sharing
touching
more hugs
More nature
Less noise
More walking
Less driving
More beauty
Less blame
I love this format Gary!
more cat love
more dog love
more bird feeders
more trees
more woods
more walk in the sun
less news
I love it!
More grace
Less shame
More creativity
Less entertainment
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Excellent recipe. Thanks, Gary.
❤️ so simple, yet so effective. Why are we here if not for making life more alive?
More time for doing nothing
More fresh air
Zero UPF’s
yes!! that's hard work though (but we're a resilient bunch).
I so enjoyed this Gary! Very soothing and calming. And I love what others have added too!
Hello Gary -- I agree with your recipe...mostly. The trouble is, there is an assumption that people are always self-oriented, and so all persons need to think of the other to a greater extent.
This assumption fails when talking about the category living on one far side of the Empathy Spectrum, where you have Cluster-B personalities at one polar extreme and persons with too much empathy at the opposite extreme. The persons with too much empathy and too little Self are sometimes called Codependents, although I dislike that often-misinterpreted term.
Therefore a "Codependent" would require more Self, rather than less. Usually life -- and others -- trample them.
Good story illustrating this: "The Less You Know the Sounder You Sleep" by Juliet Butler
Yes, good points... I have written a couple of articles on co-dependency literature https://garysharpe.substack.com/p/personal-boundaries-and-their-violations?utm_source=publication-search and https://garysharpe.substack.com/p/systemic-personal-boundary-violations?utm_source=publication-search
Thanks. I will read these.
Given the Obesity numbers sweeping the western world I would add :
Less eating.
More moving.
Love this.
Perfect! Paul Kingsnorth (Abbey of Misrule) talks about the quiet and taking “the peace of the heart.” It’s a great read!
more red/nir light