I love the concept of “body budgets.” It kind of reminds me of a social bank we have with other people in our lives. When we have good experiences with an individual, then the savings increase with our social bank account. When we have bad experiences with them, then there are the respective withdrawals. There can come a time when there is the need for a withdrawal but there are not sufficient savings of good experiences to draw upon. At that moment, the friendship likely collapses or we cut ties with that person. No amount of special pleading will then get them back to where we once were it sadly seems. I think the body is the same way and can result in utter exhaustion with the resulting chronic conditions. Thank you for your great insights and notes!
Yes. This happened to me with a family member who was always an inconsiderate and problematic person.
I couldn't feel better about the situation until I made it clear to him that I did not want to be involved in his impulsive needs for help that were not genuine.
After ending that thread, a lot of small chronic pains I had subsided.
Same for my sister who last month cut ties with him. She got better without even knowing why!
It reaches a point where you would previously have driven out to save them from whatever mess they got themselves into to not even picking up the phone. It’s a great relief to get away from those toxic people or at least set up the right, strict boundaries. I’m glad it brought near instant relief for you and your sister.
Interesting, thanks for these real world examples. LFB often says in her interviews - the best thing for our body budget/nervous system is other people, the worst thing for our body budget/nervous system is other people...
I love the concept of “body budgets.” It kind of reminds me of a social bank we have with other people in our lives. When we have good experiences with an individual, then the savings increase with our social bank account. When we have bad experiences with them, then there are the respective withdrawals. There can come a time when there is the need for a withdrawal but there are not sufficient savings of good experiences to draw upon. At that moment, the friendship likely collapses or we cut ties with that person. No amount of special pleading will then get them back to where we once were it sadly seems. I think the body is the same way and can result in utter exhaustion with the resulting chronic conditions. Thank you for your great insights and notes!
Yes. This happened to me with a family member who was always an inconsiderate and problematic person.
I couldn't feel better about the situation until I made it clear to him that I did not want to be involved in his impulsive needs for help that were not genuine.
After ending that thread, a lot of small chronic pains I had subsided.
Same for my sister who last month cut ties with him. She got better without even knowing why!
It reaches a point where you would previously have driven out to save them from whatever mess they got themselves into to not even picking up the phone. It’s a great relief to get away from those toxic people or at least set up the right, strict boundaries. I’m glad it brought near instant relief for you and your sister.
Interesting, thanks for these real world examples. LFB often says in her interviews - the best thing for our body budget/nervous system is other people, the worst thing for our body budget/nervous system is other people...
Great post, Gary. Do you have any thoughts on psilocybin therapy? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8156539/
Yes, I believe that these psychedelic approaches look very promosing, with the right support, and in the right settingd