I enjoyed reading this. Very intriguing and I could so relate. It also made me reflect upon work relationships I have had. I've encountered coworkers in the same profession having spouses in the same field as my own spouse. I having been a Speech Pathologist in rehab, with a spouse in Electrical Engineering. Two fellow speech pathology coworkers had spouses in the same type profession as my own.. Further, another 2 coworker Occupational Therapists had spouses who were Civil Engineers. These were all coworkers close in my proximity. I recall also finding it intriguing years ago, that the speech pathologist who left prior to my being hired had just moved from a home near to where I was moving. Her spouse worked in the same field as my own, and she named her first born son the same as my first born son. We never knew or met each other. (Makes me wonder if there are trauma similarities there too. There is a lot unknown.....) Also so much more I could relate to reading what you wrote, but this would become far too long. Thanks for the food for thought Gary! One more thing...I also recall. a former supervisor of mine who also was a speech pathologist - stating she noticed our profession tended to be a bit "anal". Well, I too had seen a perfectionistic tendency in the profession, to be honest. I also have noticed similar physical challenges encountered....joint replacements or reconstructuring, arthritis. It makes sense to me in my experience and relationships with others in the field.
"...specific industries or institutions have become self-selecting and amplifying of people displaying certain styles..."
I agree. It's very much like the movie "Divergent"!
"...and how in turn, these trauma-selecting and trauma-inducing institutions are now traumatizing the rest of us..."
That's because they don't heal their trauma, only continue to cope through compensation and other techniques. This is how the majority of people go through their entire lives, so of course it has become easy for industries and institutions to pay psychopaths to constantly analyzing the workplace to further enslave workers. What a cycle of trauma!
Very very interesting stuff. Especially interesting to me: how we have natural talents and how these may make something wonderful (teaching, say) into something largely self- and other-destructive. Something else to explore, for me anyway: how some childhood traumas may make us relatively immune to certain generally traumatizing environments. I think of how, in academia, I was rather like how I went my own way in childhood. As for academia, I rather went my own way in my studies and then my college teaching. Still, ever so much learning to reach more and undo blocking factors.
Jan 15, 2023·edited Jan 15, 2023Liked by Gary Sharpe
Hi Gary,
Quite the spot-on, deep-dive post here, and I've yet to follow up on all the rabbit holes you've left for us ... or even taking a dive into some excellent comments here.
Much thanks for this post. I can only trust it helps a few of us further continue down that path of constantly waking up ... or at least pinching ourselves to make sure we aren't sleep walking into the night.
Hmm... I wonder how a 'Jack of all trades' entrepreneur would align? When I see generalizations or classifications such as this my mind immediately starts focusing on the exceptions... I wonder what that says about me, lol!
I enjoyed reading this. Very intriguing and I could so relate. It also made me reflect upon work relationships I have had. I've encountered coworkers in the same profession having spouses in the same field as my own spouse. I having been a Speech Pathologist in rehab, with a spouse in Electrical Engineering. Two fellow speech pathology coworkers had spouses in the same type profession as my own.. Further, another 2 coworker Occupational Therapists had spouses who were Civil Engineers. These were all coworkers close in my proximity. I recall also finding it intriguing years ago, that the speech pathologist who left prior to my being hired had just moved from a home near to where I was moving. Her spouse worked in the same field as my own, and she named her first born son the same as my first born son. We never knew or met each other. (Makes me wonder if there are trauma similarities there too. There is a lot unknown.....) Also so much more I could relate to reading what you wrote, but this would become far too long. Thanks for the food for thought Gary! One more thing...I also recall. a former supervisor of mine who also was a speech pathologist - stating she noticed our profession tended to be a bit "anal". Well, I too had seen a perfectionistic tendency in the profession, to be honest. I also have noticed similar physical challenges encountered....joint replacements or reconstructuring, arthritis. It makes sense to me in my experience and relationships with others in the field.
"...specific industries or institutions have become self-selecting and amplifying of people displaying certain styles..."
I agree. It's very much like the movie "Divergent"!
"...and how in turn, these trauma-selecting and trauma-inducing institutions are now traumatizing the rest of us..."
That's because they don't heal their trauma, only continue to cope through compensation and other techniques. This is how the majority of people go through their entire lives, so of course it has become easy for industries and institutions to pay psychopaths to constantly analyzing the workplace to further enslave workers. What a cycle of trauma!
Very very interesting stuff. Especially interesting to me: how we have natural talents and how these may make something wonderful (teaching, say) into something largely self- and other-destructive. Something else to explore, for me anyway: how some childhood traumas may make us relatively immune to certain generally traumatizing environments. I think of how, in academia, I was rather like how I went my own way in childhood. As for academia, I rather went my own way in my studies and then my college teaching. Still, ever so much learning to reach more and undo blocking factors.
Hi Gary,
Quite the spot-on, deep-dive post here, and I've yet to follow up on all the rabbit holes you've left for us ... or even taking a dive into some excellent comments here.
I suspected that once I clicked the link to your post, I would be here for awhile, so I kept putting it off ... until a running dialogue with buddy Heidi Heil led from this quip ... to remembering to begin the read of your post. https://sashalatypova.substack.com/p/pfizer-under-microscope-dr-david/comment/11915422
Much thanks for this post. I can only trust it helps a few of us further continue down that path of constantly waking up ... or at least pinching ourselves to make sure we aren't sleep walking into the night.
Cheers Gary!
steve
Fascinating!
Very very very interesting.
I recognise myself in the traits of 2-3 survival styles (in the linked article).
Any recommendations on how to dig deeper to figure out what my style is?
Absolutely fascinating
Hmm... I wonder how a 'Jack of all trades' entrepreneur would align? When I see generalizations or classifications such as this my mind immediately starts focusing on the exceptions... I wonder what that says about me, lol!